Peace I leave with you; my peace I give you. I do not give to you as the world gives.
– John 14:27
Perhaps we should start by asking ourselves as the children of God, why we are so heavily burdened and troubled when Christ has called us to peace and freedom? We minister that on the cross, all things were crucified with Him, His work was finished, yet we are carrying the same struggles heavily on our shoulders day in and day out.
Come unto me, all ye that labour and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest. – Matthew 11:28
Beginning of 2019 I prayed to God for one thing, rest. I didn’t want to toil anymore. I imagined this rest that it’d come in a certain form, but Christ instead said, ‘come and sit on my feet’. The whole year He was teaching me how to rest in Him by just trusting Him in every situation. I realised that you can never truly say that you believe until you learn to rest in Christ.
Most of the burdens and cares that we toil with, all the sorrow we have carried throughout our lives, 90% of them were either passed on to us either by family, or relationships we have had along the way. The expectations we live to meet. The need to help and the desire for acknowledgment or to be seen. Some are just mere troubles that were passed down through the family line. If you just try to examine all that has troubled you all your life and still does, you will realise that it is very little what truly is your problem.
When I was a child I had such deep love for a certain family member. However, this member did all things that made me feel rejected. This built a foundation of rejection in my heart. Such that I lived through life trying to please and ‘help’ others, and whenever I had done so I’d have such fulfillment. That became a definition of who I was, and my whole reputation was founded on that – helping and pleasing others. God crumbled all that reputation to fix me up and to set Himself as a foundation of my reputation. It was so painful because, this meant that I now had nothing to help define who I was. Then He made me understand why the family member acted the way they did back then. Which made me understand that even they were carrying burdens that were not theirs and passing them on to others.
When a woman for example, who has children, stays in an abusive relationship or marriage, because of her low self esteem that was caused by someone else, the children absorb the effects of that and their lives are somewhat shaped by those effects in a direction of burden and sorrow. They grow to become negative contributors to society because of that choice.
When a father had dreams that he never got to fulfill because of this and that, and is now passing on those dreams to his son, the son carries his burden.
When a mother who had bad experiences in marriage or relationships interferes with the love life of her daughter, she makes her carry her burdens.
When you were a child and everyone saw you as a prospective human being and made it known to you, and you live your life trying to live up to those expectations, you are carrying their burdens shaped as expectations.
But what do you truly want for yourself, can you even tell, do you even know or you are so stuck in the desires of others for you?
Time has come for the children of God to offload burdens from their shoulders. The sorrow, the anger, resentment and bitterness caused by the iniquity and the expectations of others has caused all the people of God to move through life heavily burdened. Those heavy loads each person tries to lift them off through bitter utterances; ill treatments; expectations; abuse, arrogance and pride.
For unto us a child is born, unto us a son is given: and the government shall be upon his shoulder: and his name shall be called Wonderful, Counseller, The mighty God, The everlasting Father, The Prince of Peace. – Isaiah 9:6
To govern is to rule; control over; guide, direct etc. It is to have authority to set a certain order or precedence. To direct the ways of the people and to give them direction. The one who governs carries the burdens of those they govern. The government in itself is the set institution responsible to bring this responsibility to manifestation. Christ is said to be the carrier of the government, the institution responsible for bringing order, direction and guidance to the people as well as carry their burdens. Because of the knowledge of this responsibility upon Himself, He tells us all to bring our cares and burdens unto Him [in prayer, supplication and thanksgiving], in exchange He will give us rest – peace that surpasses all understanding. Instead we toil and become anxious because we somehow feel that we can carry our own burdens and those of others, then we crash through life. We always crash and fail because we are not called nor equipped to carry these burdens, but to love God who then guides us to how to love others enough to be a sacrifice for them, instead of carrying their burdens.
How can we love each other, if all we place on each other is expectation; selfish desires, anger and resentment? Christ gave Himself but never compromised Himself. It is through compromising ourselves for others that we become bitter and resentful. His love for us was kept intune by the love He had for the Father. He understood that the Father loves everything that He has created and can use each as a sacrifice but not a compromise. So He uses us to be a sacrifice for others in love because every sacrifice carries a reward and the reward is with Him.
These all died in faith, not having received the promises, but having seen them afar off, and were persuaded of them, and embraced them, and confessed that they were strangers and pilgrims on the earth. – Hebrews 11:13
We have to offload our burdens unto Christ, everything troubling our hearts and minds we must surrender it all to Him. Even the thoughts and judgements of others that we know will follow our decision, Christ will take care of it all. Our responsibility is to guard our hearts for no one can guard another’s heart.
Freedom is being light and free in your heart and mind from all things. The world says ‘do you’, but I say free yourself that you may be light enough for the Spirit of God to do through you. When you are able to do such, you are a step closer to knowing who you really are. When you choose to please others, automatically you forsake God and subsequently yourself. Then you become a problem in society rather than a solution.
May God bless you with the willing spirit to surrender all burdens to Christ, pay less attention to people’s actions and demands so you can genuinely love them.