If you are like me you love Love and you are smitten by it’s beauty. The amazing thing about it is that, God our Father is Love and forever so beautiful. So, when I see real love I see God.
A new commandment I give to you, that you love one another; as I have loved you, that you also love one another. – John 13:34
See, Love doesn’t force itself, it doesn’t demand and it releases no obligation. It comes from a place of patience, gentleness and kindness. Therefore, anything done in love produces a sweet smelling aroma. It produces recreation and multiplication. That is how God created us, in love. Hence Jesus in 1 John 4:20 says, Whoever says ”I love God” but doesn’t love his brother is a liar. We are suppose to replicate this love we have been created in.
However, we have been somewhat denied this pure love by the world. We have been more exposed to selfishness. Our benefit is that it is embedded in us because of who created us and how He created us. It is therefore, always brewing somewhere in our subconscious yearning to come out. But because we lack experience of it, we give it in a manner that doesn’t define it.
for it is God who works in you both to will and to do for His good pleasure. – Philippians 2:13
We associate love with pleasure and affection. That is why many people marry during the time when they cannot keep their hands off each other, under the notion that they love each other. Later when all that affection and pleasure is gone they head straight for divorce because somehow life becomes unbearable.
When you live to pleasure people you do not yet know who you are. Yours is not to pleasure people but to love them and to try and live peaceable with them so you can have a clear conscience. The pleasure part belongs to God. You are created for His good pleasure, and that means living your purpose. That of course will be different to what one has imagined for themselves because our thoughts are not His thoughts, His are higher. He said concerning Jesus – “This is my son in whom I am well pleased”. We also want to hear Him say the same thing about us because that’ll mean we will have fulfilled our purpose of creation. Pleasuring people can only leave us drained and tired and possibly, resentful.
Wives, submit to your own husbands, as to the Lord. – Ephesians 5:22
Women have heard this repeated over and over it has literally become a song. What I love about it, is the part that says ”as to the Lord” which means as you do to Christ our Lord. Which means, you cannot submit yourself to a husband as to Christ when you are not yet submitted to Christ, your first husband. When it is said to women, the emphasis is in submission, leaving out the part, as to Christ. Then it becomes an obligation, an act of law than it becomes an act of love. Nothing good can come out of law or obligation. It only gives birth to resentment and rebellion.
Christ, on the other hand, you do not see. He is not physically present but spiritually. Meaning that when you do anything for Him, it will come from a place of a willing heart which is a place of love. No one can force you to obey, love and respect what you do not see, you only do so from a place of worship. When you are now fully submitted to Christ whom you do not see, you can easily be submitted to the man whom you see everyday. You cannot do from the waist, it has to start from the head. Christ is the head and He is love. Because of that, you will understand that whichever husband he has given you is the perfect one for you.
Submission means willingly subjecting yourself to the authority of another. If you are employed and you have a boss, that boss has authority that is above yours. Because of that, no matter how you disagree with them you will do as they command. Unless of course you have wisdom and the ability by the Holy Spirit to show them differently, enough for them to hear. This wisdom and ability will still be subjected to the authority. This is what submitting to a husband means, to be willingly subjected to their authority. However, for this to be effective, it has to come from a place of love and that is in Christ. He is the bond that binds the two together. Therefore, you cannot be effectively submitted to a husband when you are not yet submitted to Christ who enables you to be submitted to a man. Christ is without error, so learning to submit to Him first, means your submission will be without question. This also teaches you what is acceptable to Christ and will give you position to deny what is not. As Christ is the first husband, the second husband also becomes subjected to Christ. Therefore, he cannot abuse his authority to subject you to things unacceptable to Christ. It is in this place that now you can use the wisdom and ability by the Holy Spirit to disagree and deny such.
When we learn and understand that all things start with Christ, we will have found a solution to most of our problems.